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The Power Of Negative Thinking
Psychologists advise us to think positive but sometimes this can be counterproductive. It’s like when they tell you not to think of a white bear. The more you try, the more the white bear appears.
Why do citizens of the most economically insecure countries often report a higher happiness rate? They have nothing to lose, they have already known the worst possible scenario.
A pioneer of the “negative route”, was the psychotherapist Albert Ellis. He rediscovered a key idea of the Stoic philosophers of ancient Greece and Rome: sometimes, the best way to deal with an uncertain future is to focus not on the best case, but on the worst.
To overcome the fear of shame, Ellis advised his clients to travel in the New York subway and to say aloud the names of the stations passing through them. His patients had a hard time but they discovered that their fears were exaggerated: nobody said anything to them, they only received strange looks. The Stoics practiced the technique called “the premeditation of evils”: they thought of every detail of the worst possible scenario, which considerably reduced their anxiety.
The goal of this negative thinking is not to provoke happy emotions or to pursue success. It is about being realistic by accepting the fact that the future is uncertain and that this life has inevitable surprises, both positive and negative. The power of negative thinking becomes especially important when we speak of an inevitable fact of life: death. One of the most famous phrases of Steve Jobs is related to this aspect: “Remembering you’re going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.”
The power of Positive thinking
Positivity is very important to succeed in life. It give motivation to give our best and put all our chance to achieve our goal in professional or personal life.
When someone go trough a difficult or potential deadly decease, the positive thought can be as strong as the medicine, i believe its primordial. Some people was even condamn to death by their doctor, and their positivity and strength pull them out of it, and they recover.
To spread the light around us and give happiness to friend and family the best is obviously to stay away fro negativity and push the one around us always to the top by encouraging them.
Positive thinking can bring happiness to the heart and soul. Their is no secret in life to reach the true happiness, the first step start from the positivity.
Positivity in any kind of relationship is one of the most important part of it. Always do all what you can to give self confidence to the person you love. To be an example also to our children we should always show positivity.