About Lies

Lying is a condition of life. Is that true? What does it mean to lie? Hide reality or tell only imaginary, far from reality things?  Is it possible to lie to a person to conceal his incurable disease? Is this justified? Do you often lie to your parents, friends, loved one? Is the lie the same? Or maybe it’s a disease? After all, there are people who call “liars”. Sometimes the causes of lies are obvious, sometimes lying without reason. Really, sometimes rejoicing at the happiness of another person, we say “jealous of whites”, and why not say “joyful” directly. but how to evaluate when lied from good incentives? But it is said that lying as jealousy is not black and white, it’s just fancy. There is a lie or no, there is jealousy or not.

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162 thoughts on “About Lies

  1. I don’t like lies, it tells me that a person can’t be trusted. If I was diagnosed with some disease, I would want to know the truth. I always want to know the truth from people. However, I realize that telling the truth doesn’t necessarily mean that someone is trustworthy but if they like it definitely means I can’t trust that person. How would I know if they were telling the truth? I also believe lying is a choice that people make. Just my thoughts.

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      1. True, lying starts right away, kids don’t need to be taught to lie, they need to be taught to tell truth. Adults can make a choice, lying is the wrong way to go, it hurts others and ourselves.

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      1. Maybe they are scared to tell the truth and don’t know how to express their feelings? Maybe they rather act cowardly because its easier to avoid a difficult situation? Maybe they lie as a way to avoid facing the other person because deep down, they are afraid of ultimately losing them. I wish I had an answer for you. Lies are the worst. I am sorry that you experienced this with your last relationship😔

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      2. This actually happened to me. How was I supposed to tell this person that I read her text messages? That’s where the “truth” was exposed but she had no problem lying to my face prior to that. And she did it so naturally too. I couldn’t tell her that I read her text messages since that is a breach of trust. An ethical dilemma.

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      3. Oh my, yes i read my ex boyfriend messages and i started to talk about all the stuff, what was going on and he lied and lied even he swear on his mothers life what is not true and i should believe what he is telling me, after i told him, thats i saw all the messages, he turned red and cried, so why did he lied at the first place?

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      4. Even though we can forgive and should forgive but nonetheless that trust has been broken and it takes a long time to get that trust back again. And if the other person isn’t sorry for lying than that makes things impossible to get back to normal even if we are sincere in our forgiveness. Lying is just such a terrible thing yet so many people seem to do it and think it is no big deal. It’s very sad.

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      1. It is possible in some cases but I don’t think that is true for most. Usually people will lie because they maybe want to hide something that they don’t want people to find out or they try to make themselves look better by lying which never works for very long. Or they are trying to gain something for themselves. Many reasons I suppose so it would be hard to come up with one overall reason. Best thing is to be truthful. One lie usually leads to more lies which leads to a lot of hurt. Whatever, lying is not a good thing for anyone to do. Truth is always best, for others and for ourselves. Great post, very well done Ilona!

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  2. I really don’t like lying. I think it’s the worst thing to do. I know there can be exceptions, where hiding the truth maybe necessary but we should try to atleast not lie at most times😊

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  3. It’s easier for people to lie than to tell the truth, especially if the truth is hard to accept. Sometimes the the truth is harder to tell if it causes the liar pain or if they feel threatened by the other person. I noticed that lying seems to be easy for some people who have no problem lying to your face. How they don’t feel guilty about this is a mystery to me. It is easier for me to tell the truth and be humble about something than it is to cover it up with a lie. Eventually, they’re going to find out the truth anyways and by that point, its often too late to redeem yourself.

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  4. The test if a lie may not be in its effect on reality but, rather, truth. Reality is truth when that reality remains unaltered as time and circumstance change. As time and circumstance change often reality changes as well. Lying, in and of itself, contradicts objective truth. And in that contradiction makes the liar a heretic to objective truth. Yet, the circumstance of a lie may afford one some level of leniency if the purpose of the lie was to protect another rather than oneself.
    -Alan

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  5. When I started to learn English and I had a lesson when the teacher was translating irregular verbs to us, we came to the subject of the word “lie”. So when the wordmark lie means a to say untrugh and when means recumbent, when you need to write a regular version, and when in an irregular form.
    Well, she said: “Remember, we’re lying irregularly (in the sense of on the bed), we lie regularly” :-))
    Something in this translation is, do not you think?:-)

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  6. I like your thoughts!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Lies I Tell
    Sara Borjas

    A woman has a window in her face: that is the truth. I look like my mother: that is the truth. I want to tell you I am not like her: that is the truth. I am ashamed walking in a woman’s body: that is the truth. I wish to take back everything I say: that is the truth. A window can be a mirror. It can also be a door: that is the truth. As a girl, my mother slept in a shack with no windows and one door: that is the truth. My grandma would slam windows: truth. A mother’s hands are stronger than God: truth. We often use fruit to describe a bruise, like plum or blackberry: truth. My mother’s window blackberried: truth. My mother’s door peached: truth. She loves peaches: that is the truth. My father could not stand them in our house: that is the truth. We had three doors and nine windows in our house: that is the truth. A woman has a face in her window: truth. A father has a window but I don’t know where it is: truth. What burrows is the peach fuzz, he said: that is the truth. I have never been close enough to a peach to eat one: truth. The worst things last on the skin: truth. I don’t like not having things: truth. My father has one door but I can’t find it: truth. Not all windows open: that is the truth. One night I see my father crying in the yard, head in his hands: that is the truth. I make things up that I want for myself: that is the truth.

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  7. I’ve seen people lie at work and try to divert attention away from something they haven’t finished…it always catches up with them…the universe has a way of doing that.

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      1. I don’t like it because one it is counterproductive and two it affects everyone. I’ve learned to be bluntly honest with some humor…
        you end up being respected that way…maybe not a great way to make a lot of friends but a great way to make the right friends… in life or work

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  8. Lies most defiantly can destroy bonds. What about the little white lies like belief in Santa or a fib to not ruin a birthday party? It’s tricky when dealing with lies.

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    1. We plan on telling our daughter the truth about Santa when she’s old enough to understand what Santa is. She’s 2. Her fav show is Peppa Pig and Santa is often featured on that show, so I wouldn’t be surprised if she believes in Santa.

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  9. I hate liars it make me crazy. I don t understand people who can t assume what they do. If a person scared of the reaction of the truth they should do the right thing in the first place. Lie and love don t match to me. After of course at work for exemple not everyone can t say what they think about their boss or their customer. Need to adapt. But never lie to the person you loves or it mean you don t really love them

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  10. Smiles; to really tell the Truth to really, really tell the Truth of Your Humanity; both Shadow and Light; is A potential that you really, really really, will always be alone or close to that at least at Home Your Truth.

    This is A Hardest Part of all; telling no Lie; Shadow or Light; Being True to Your Human Nature Hiding nothing, nothing at all about what is Real You View About Life.

    That’s a Real Challenge; For Humans are Social Animals and they Bond
    Same over Lies as they Do Truth; to Stroke Egos to Gain Materials Goods for Subsistence; to Culturally Clothe Better to Store more to be Better than You will ever be too.

    This is all Exacerbated as soon as We store Grain for the Next Year 10 Thousand Years ago; instead of Foraging For Food and Water Now all Together in a Dance And Song of Life that Spells we need the Truth each Other Naked and Real Living.

    Our Ancestors away from so many Layers of Cultural Clothes; yes, Lies and Deceit away from the Reality of Nature’s Truth and Light lived a Life
    of ‘Compersion’ more then as the Opposite of Jealousy where ownership
    of Humans and Goods then were not a way of life; Giving and Sharing
    With Fewer Lies to Bind and Bond over who stores more than
    the other or who builds the Biggest Tower all for their self.

    Smiles; i have a Wife who i can be totally Honest
    with; a Wife i never have to lie to about all
    my Shadow and Light True; How
    Beautiful it is to be
    able to tell the
    Truth and Still
    Keep a Spouse a
    Few members of Your
    Family Close and even a
    Friend at Least and folks who
    will at least Tolerate the Truth You Speak
    that you See as Life that is Light and Dark for You.. A Tree of Life…
    Smiles my Friend the Truth is so easy to Give and so hard to Receive.

    Your Smile
    Seems Truly
    Sincere so nice to visit..:)

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    1. Good evening my dear word press friend, thank you so much for all those amazing comments and for all the positivity what you have give me so far, i appreciate it a lot, even now, when i’m busy, because still have some family staying here until Sunday, i will be more active here from Monday🤗smiles mon ami😊 ALWAYS

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      1. Smiles my Kind Young Friend.. Yes.. Friends Always is Not At All Hard for me to Do on my part for sure and please Do Enjoy Your Company Now as Flesh And Blood Family is So Precious to Cherish Every Now of Life.. Always Smiles of Happiness
        to You With Joy
        of Human Hugs
        Wherever You Go next..:)

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    1. I was thinking could it the lie be mental illness? We had a women at work she was working very well and really great person, but she was lying all the time, everyone new everything she says is a lie, but everyone just talked nicely and pretend like everything is okay, i mean if you lie even when you talk about the most simple things is it normal?

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      1. Yes I believe we would say they have mental illness in terms of being a compulsive liar. Lies themselves can lead to corruption of the mind in this way, but I believe they are normal and needed in moderation, mainly to protect others.

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  11. Reblogged this on Ram's notes and commented:
    just to impress my manager ,I lie sometimes .But then i ‘ll complete my work as well.At some instances,we might lie, but that will not be our intentions .
    but if you,lie to your parents,partners that is when you ll start loosing people.

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  12. The test of a lie may not be in its effect on reality but, rather, truth. Reality becomes truth when that reality remains unaltered as time and circumstance change. As time and circumstance change often reality changes as well.
    Lying, in and of itself, contradicts objective truth. And in that contradiction makes the liar a heretic to objective truth. Yet, the circumstance of a lie may afford one some level of leniency if the purpose of the lie was to protect another rather than oneself.
    -Alan

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  13. I like reading the comments here as much as I like reading your posts 🙂
    Seeing your smiling face doesn’t hurt either—and that’s no lie 😉
    Keep smiling keep writing—and I’ll do my best to do the same.
    🙏🏻

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  14. We should not lie to ourselves. But if a lie makes someone happy than I should prefer that.. It’s like a possibility to me to let someone be Happy cause sometimes trust fail and lie live out the opportunity🤗

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  15. “It’s a saying they have, that a man has a false heart in his mouth for the world to see, another in his breast to show to his special friends and his family, and the real one, the true one, the secret one, which is never known to anyone except to himself alone…” James Clavell,

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  16. I find it very difficult to lie, even when it would perhaps be safer or kinder if I did. I can be honest to the point of being too blunt. I try to keep compassion and diplomacy (but sometimes I really fail) and aim to see the best in people, though I’m more cynical than when I was younger. Though I consciously know people lie, I’m still confused when they do it for no obvious reason or out of spite. When past friendships have failed from my side it has been trust rather than love that has been eroded.

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  17. people don’t realize lying when done for fun or casually becomes a habit soon – unless it is not for a cause (to save a life 😊) – lying should be usually avoided – BTW you have such a beautiful smile – stay blessed

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  18. Lying is not a good habit. I was told the people who lie never succeed in their lives. I can hide the things for while but it always come out and does not matter how much I have to pay the price.

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  19. Good Post! 🙂

    The vast majority of lies are told out of self-interest. We may lie in order to avoid a punishment and we learn this VERY early, as in the child and the cookie (or chocolate) “Did you eat the chocolate?” – “No.” often the parent will smile at the obvious lie and this reinforces in us that lying can have good consequences for us, when we are very young.

    We may also lie when we believe it is in the other person’s best interests (or, again, our own, as in the: “Does my bum look big in these?” question. It is a very brave or very stupid man who does not lie in this case! 😉

    These are ‘small’ cases. Bigger cases usually return to the ‘It’s in my best interest to lie.” example. Someone cheats on their girl/boyfriend and they think it was a once only time. The pressure will be on them to lie about it as they know the truth will hurt them as well as the other person and if it never happens again and the other person does not find out, all will be well… in theory. 😉

    There are some people who may be ill who lie compulsorily, but it could just be a ‘learned’ behaviour, probably from a very early age. A lie is told that makes other people think the liar is nice/fun/good/brave, etc which makes the person lie to keep on having people like them, then it becomes habit and becomes ‘normalised’ and nothing wrong is seen by doing it (to the person it does not seem wrong, just the reverse, it gives them rewards. Politicians are an excellent example of this.

    A few thoughts on lies, i have a lot more – for another time perhaps.

    Just to be clear…. The Truth sets us Free, but it can often be Freedom with considerable cost, in a world where lies are an everyday thing and we lie to ourselves all the time, perhaps without knowing that we do, or how we do. 😉

    Enjoy your day! 🙂

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  20. We should be honest about whom we are and what we want, we should always speak the truth or never speak at all!
    No one has the right to harm other’s life and dreams because of the lies
    We live in an hypocrite and double standards society so we should lower our expectations but we can always start from ourselves
    Thank you for sharing 👍

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  21. Lying puts oneself in a trap, as u end up lying more to cover up for that. It can boomerang and spoil reputation, lose trust, etc. However in spite of this, a “little” lie that would prevent hurt, or prevent tears or balance relations is ok. Just to be clearer, “little” lie excludes false compliments…

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      1. Hello! This is one of your great virtues that very few people have. Make it a treasure and continue to give your great emotions ❤ I embrace you strongly. Your friend Sabrina 😉

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  22. People lying because they want to look better in other people eyes. This is goes from ego and desire of being approved. When you no longer driven by ego but guided by soul, you never lie.

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